Jennifer Lopez Reveals What Made Her Reconnect with Ben Affleck

Jennifer Lopez got candid about what made her reconnect with her now-husband, Ben Affleck.

The singer told Vogue in her November cover story, that Affleck was the one to make the first move in rekindling their love. 

“Obviously we weren’t trying to go out in public. But I never shied away from the fact that for me, I always felt like there was a real love there, a true love there,” the singer stated.

She continued: ”People in my life know that he was a very, very special person in my life. When we reconnected, those feelings for me were still very real.”

Lopez stated that Affleck emailed her after his split from Ana De Armas to let her know he had spoken about her in an interview. From there, they kept talking and started hanging out. 

However, the “On The Floor” singer noted that reconnecting with an ex isn’t always a good idea.

“I don’t know that I recommend this for everybody. Sometimes you outgrow each other, or you just grow differently,” she told the magazine. 

Lopez explained that she and Affleck lost each other and then found each other again.

“Not to discredit anything in between that happened, because all those things were real too. All we’ve ever wanted was to kind of come to a place of peace in our lives where we really felt that type of love that you feel when you’re very young and wonder if you can have that again. Does it exist? Is it real? All those questions that I think everyone has,” she elaborated. 

Lopez continued: “You go through all these relationships, and you’re searching and you’re connecting and you’re disconnecting with people, and you’re like, ‘God, is this just what life is? Like a carousel, roller coaster, carnival ride?’ And then it settles. But the journey to that is the mystery for everybody.”

The “Selena ” actress added that the best way to make sure things work out is to “take care” of yourself.

“Knowing that in taking care of yourself, everything will turn out OK, that people will treat you the way you want to be treated and your life will feel good to you,” she said. “For a long time, I was just like, ‘Yes, do whatever you want! I can take it, I’ll be here, because I’m really strong, and I’ll be fine.’ Little by little, it chips away at your self-worth, your self-esteem, your soul.”

Lopez tied the knot with Affleck in July in Las Vegas and again at his Georgia estate in August. She said that blending their families has been a “process.”

The singer shares 14-year-old twins, Max and Emme, with ex-husband Marc Anthony, while Affleck and his ex-wife, Jennifer Garner, share three kids: Violet, 16, Seraphina, 13, and Samuel, 10.

Lopez and Affleck got engaged for the second time in April. The pair, dubbed “Bennifer,” initially started dating in 2002. 

In November of that year, Affleck proposed a 6.1-carat Harry Winston pink diamond ring that reportedly cost $2.5 million.

Lopez called Affleck “an amazing co-parent” and has an “amazing” co-parenting relationship with his ex-wife.

“The transition is a process that needs to be handled with so much care. They have so many feelings. They’re teens. But it’s going really well so far,” the songwriter explained.

“What I hope to cultivate with our family is that his kids have a new ally in me and my kids have a new ally in him, someone who really loves and cares about them but can have a different perspective and help me see things that I can’t see with my kids because I’m so emotionally tied up,” she continued.