Since childhood, they learn that their capital is beauty, that there is a father who protects and spoils, and a mother that warns and abides, a brother proud of his might and control, living a daring interesting young wonderful world, not governed by those chains and fears.
They look at him with admiration and even envy, but they can hardly do more than dreaming, looking at and wishing for that superman world full of freedom, adventure, and excitement; the man’s world and why not? as all prophets, leaders, philosophers, the wise and the priests are males, and the easier is to take care of fulfilling the planned rule for them; a well-wrapped piece of chocolate in the show windows, Dr. Hadi El-Tonsi wrote.
The teenage brings pains and burdens, challenges and fears, the vulnerability that implicates caution and defensiveness, an exciting and dangerous attraction, that temporary increases to deteriorate gradually with time.
They feel anxious as the capital is volatile, the competition is fierce, and life is full of dangers and intrigues, their humanity hides behind beauty and body; the best-seller goods.
The hunger for understanding, appreciation, love, and security pushes them to fall in the needy flirting words coming from ambitious partners and lovers, who don’t care about values and justice, unable to see the depth, not trustworthy and mainly think of pride and domination.
The competition makes some women feel afraid and not self-confident so they excel in pretending and makeup.
The need for security and the fear of time and deteriorating beauty in a world of power and superficiality motivates them to compromise with men hungry for control, sex, and show-off; men that possess money, provide protection, and make children, and make them feel that they are chosen; even if the choice was for looks, even if it was possession without love, even if it was domination without respect and dignity, and even if equality nullifies and the role of the woman becomes supportive and secondary or submissive obeying servile; her humanity lags behind the need and the matters of fact, her dignity is bought by corporal, matrimonial and material security, and the tricky flirting words calm down the need for love and temporary insures against fear, loneliness, and separation, and the talent is wasted in the service of the husband and the children behind the dependence on mighty and only partner.
The world of some women is a world of slavery, where the talent, dignity, and humanity of women looking for safety, abundance and fearing loneliness, time and competition is being sold, so they offer the beauty and the body in the market and feel proud that they are bought and that the family and the father sold them to the new owner, the overwhelming controlling owner; they satisfy him so that he wouldn’t resell them and buy another slave, leaving them for the need, loneliness, fear and time.
It is an unfair world, but the victims are calling for injustice, so no fear involved, they are content.
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