Kill Your Darlings

opinion .

When I first heard this expression- Kill Your Darlings- some time back I was shocked and confused all together.

For a moment I thought it meant killing those we love the most and I said WHAT?! but it turned out to be referring to killing 'things' not 'people' and to our 'outlook on life' not on our 'life outlook'.

I was obsessed by the concept and eager to fully digest it; so I did dig deeper until I understood it very well.

It meant that: we all should have the power and capability of letting go of things that we like, want to do or own. However, those things cause nothing but pain, stress, wasted time, money and energy; they do not add value nor bring any benefits.

Think about simple things,such as those pair of high-heel shoes that look great when you wear them but they hurt your toes, feet and cause you back ache.

Think of that expensive posh car that looks super cool from the outside but you spend half your time and all your money on fixing fix it.

Think of the cookies, doughnuts and chocolates that you eat and regret when you do not fit in your trousers with those extra kilos and pound you gained.

Even more, think of those toxic things (or relationships) that drain you physically, emotionally & mentally. Things such as the job you never liked nor had passion towards, or the surroundings that you feel out of place with or the partner you cannot imagine growing old with plus the pressure of doing so many things to gain the social approval of the bigger community.

Killing your darlings does not mean deleting things or walking away to discover new lands, it does not mean giving up. It actually means accepting that some things are not made for you or they no longer suit you and that you are better off without them.

Real strength, empowerment and inner peace begin with the ability to let go of whatever things that are not adding value to your life or to your growth as a human being; it is the ability to consciously choose your choices and to accept the outcome like an adult. It is the self-awareness of what you can accept, what you can endure and what you must completely change.

Our growth zone is a journey not a destination and in this journey our paths with others or with life situations will either meet or part , but for sure those paths are not random and they will take us somewhere.

When we kill our darlings we will be more content , less frustrated and above all with lots of inner peace and belief that we treated ourselves well and that we did not hold on to things that did not have positive vibes nor impact on us as inpiduals.

We owe it to ourselves, to kill our darlings so we start to live and to be free like birds in the air.

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