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Love & Breakup...Decision or Feeling?


Mon 04 Nov 2019 | 02:51 AM
Gehan Aboella

By : Dr Maha Gaffar

Ahead of “Valentine’s Day”Valentine’s Day” set for  November 4… Let us repeat the traditional question of “Are love andbreakup a decision or a feeling?

Is love at first sight really possible?... What happens after the first love spark?

Let's start by answering the first question and then we will find the answers to the other ones.

Actually, both love and breakup are decisions, but we always make the decision of love depending on the “unconscious mind”, in contrary to the breakup decision which depends mainly on the “conscious mind”.

Through this article, we will review what is happening to us in the different stages of Love.

Our unconscious mind is a repository of memories, attitudes, education, beliefs, principles, as well as it is an archive full of sounds, images and sensations resulting from everything we have been through.

The unconscious controls your choices, reactions and first impressions about things and people, connecting everything new to the stock it has stored over the years.

When you see a person for the first time and attracts your attention, this is because of your unconscious mind that immediately linked his features to the features of people who are very close to your heart. You might not remember at this moment, but this is the FACT!.

Hence, you feel attracted to this person, without knowing the real reason. Maybe this person look-alike someone who is dear to you based on features and previous situations stored in the unconscious mind.

When the person starts to express himself, his thoughts, and views, there will be either of two results; the conscious and unconscious minds meet or repel, but only one must win at the end.

Whether the attraction turns into deep love ... or rejection occurs after a debate between the two minds leading to the breakup decision.

So attraction and then love depend firstly on the unconscious mind and then confirmed by the conscious one, yet breakup depends mainly on the conscious mind.

The decision of love after the flirtation stage resulted in chemical reactions within the human body, which affect the heart and sensation centers, making the person feel happy. Consequently, the heart is the “Object”, not the “Subject”.

As being believed, love is chemistry, but will this chemistry last?

To know the answer, STAY TUNED for the upcoming article!.